I am listening. I hear the call.
And this is my response to your question: “What is a Yoni massage?”
I always felt that there must be more than just the reproductive, gynaecological or random sexual approach to a woman’s vagina. I think all women intuitively know that, at least from my experience by giving tantric Yoni massages over the last 2 years.
I will tell you in a minute how I got there, but fist let’s clarify some things.
What is a tantric Yoni massage?
The Sanskrit word Tantra means “Expansion.” Tantra is an ancient spiritual tradition that can reveal the divine being that you truly are through a holistic lifestyle, meditation practices and sacred sexuality.
Yoni massage is one of the most powerful tantric tools I know of for worshipping a woman’s vagina with the highest love and respect. Yoni is the Sanskrit word for Vagina, meaning “sacred space”.
It offers women a profound and direct feminine embodied experience that transforms their lives. Yoni massage is a ritual that truly honours a woman and her whole sensual being.
During a Yoni massage a woman can allow herself to receive, learning to trust and fully surrender through sacred touch and loving awareness. She can experience deep relaxation, mystical states of pleasure and orgasmic bliss.
Yoni massage helps women to release trauma, numbness, pain, stored emotions, and creates a new healthy love affair towards their femininity and Yoni’s.
How did I get from working the corporate world to giving tantric Yoni massages?
I was disconnected from my own femininity, self-love and sexuality for most of my life. I was pretty much unorgasmic, afraid of deep intimacy and my relationship with my Yoni was not very loving at all.
I was suppressing my sexual energy, which is basically our life force energy, until it turned against me and burned me completely out. I was trying to fill my lack of connection with myself by constantly overworking, abuse of alcohol, drugs, and unhealthy intimate relationships.
I couldn't feel anything anymore, especially not my Yoni.
As I came across Tantra for the first time in India, my life completely changed. It reminded me of the divine being that I am and helped me to embrace my body, spirit and sexuality as one and not separate from each other.
I will always remember my first Yoni massage. I was excited and scared, and this mixture is absolutely normal for most women. I chose to go to a woman as this felt much more comfortable and safe for me at the beginning.
After my first session I felt worshipped, honoured in my femininity, loved, nourished, fully alive and whole as a woman. Many sessions followed, each very unique, magical and transformative.
A spontaneous response I often hear from women after a session is: “Every woman need to receive a Yoni massage.” I agree, as a woman.
As I did my Yoni massage training, I felt like being in an ancient temple, sharing this healing art with 25 other Priestesses. I was inhaling and remembering all the sacred knowledge. I felt that I had done this work before and I came here to bring it back into light.
Sexual energy is healing. It is the most natural medicine in the world. I remember I came to this course with a beginning of a really bad cold and it was gone on day two.
Why the feminine needs sexual healing?
Women are still influenced by centuries of patriarchal repression, conditioning, shame and guilt around being women- their bodies and their sexuality. Through Feminism we managed to liberate ourselves from the outside by living our sexuality freely, but most women don’t feel truly released from within.
We are lacking education. Porn shows us what a woman’s vagina should look like and how she “works”.
We trust doctors more than ourselves. Some of my clients are gynaecologists and midwifes, and after their first session they often say that they discovered so many areas of their Yoni they had never been aware of.
We show our Yoni’s to our intimate partners, some of them we just met a couple of hours before. But have you ever had a deeper look at your Yoni yourself?
Take a mirror and look at her. This is homework I highly recommend.
Many women ask me if their Yoni is normal - yes she is!
She is absolutely beautiful, magical and divine. Each Yoni is so different- like a flower. It is empowering to claim your feminine power back and see your Yoni as a natural part of your body. The most sacred one!
We also go for a foot massage, right? Why not dedicate time and energy for our most delicate space.
What will I get out of a Yoni massage session?
As in other parts of our bodies, we tend to carry a lot of tension, emotions and memories in our Yonis. She is so receptive and absorbs everything like a sponge.
If there is no blood and energy flow, we usually experience numbness. This is a very common reason why women come for a Yoni massage.
When I talk about stored memories I not only mean severe sexual traumas but also the smaller and more unconscious moments of a woman’s life, where we haven’t taken care of our Yonis or where our boundaries have been crossed. An unpleasant first intercourse, every encounter without her being really ready for it, every pleased YES that would have been a honest NO.
Painful childbirth, surgeries or the regular pap smear what many of us don’t like for a good reason.
Everything we don’t want to feel we push “down” into our Yonis. It makes me sad when I hear a woman talking about her Yoni as “down there,” as if she would not be a part of her body.
Many women have been sexually abused or carry trauma from the generation of their mother lineages before. We can talk a million times about it and bless psychotherapy, as it has its own place, but the memory will still be stored in our cells.
Through Yoni massage you will learn about your feminine sexuality and bring new awareness to areas where sexual pleasure is available.
By healing trauma, shame, guilt and negative believes that you may have regarding your Yoni and your sexual energy you open the gate for deep fulfilling orgasm’s.
As you take responsibility for your own sexual wellbeing, you will enhance self-esteem, creativity and deepen your sense of intimacy with yourself and others.
How to find the right therapist?
There are a variety of modalities, such as tantric Yoni massage, Yoni mapping or de-armouring. And every therapist works differently.
The main qualities I find very important from my own experience are presence, integrity and an open heart and mind. Trust your intuition and ask friends or other women for recommendations.
A professional therapist will talk with you before the session about your needs, desires and boundaries. And I have to make an important note here: Yoni massage does not involve intercourse!
What’s happening in detail?
A woman needs to feel safe and loved to fully open. For this to happen the whole body of a woman is worshipped first.
A tantric Yoni massage generally starts with meditation, eye gazing and breathing. This is followed by a full body massage, where the woman can just relax, allowing her self to surrender and fully receive.
It’s good to communicate how certain strokes feel, if she wants more or less pressure, or if anything is coming up emotionally. A Yoni massage has no goal at all.
There is nothing to achieve, change or fix. Whatever a woman is experiencing is absolutely perfect and welcome.
Before I begin to touch the Yoni, I always ask my clients for permission. This is a very important and empowering part of the ritual.
The Yoni likes to be approached gently from the outside to the inside through different kinds of touch, pressure and movements. By leading with presence, moving slowly and listening deeply to what is needed in any moment, the ordinary magic of tantric healing happens.
Why will Yoni massage change the world?
In the same way we honour our Yonis, the seat of the divine, we honour the earth, the giver of all life. How we treat her shows how we care for the feminine in our lives.
When we begin to express gratitude for the beauty of nature and our precious bodies, we begin to honour the Great Mother of all existence. Yoni massage helps us to remember who we truly are as women.
It creates intimacy and opens us to experience a deeper connection with our self, our partner and the world.
If a man commits to really love, value and worship his woman's Yoni, he will not only give the woman and himself a great gift, he will also change the whole world.